Category: Food For Thought

  • What A Movember Rain It Was!

    What A Movember Rain It Was!

     

    All good things come to an end! And rightly so! Because then they create moments to cherish, and lessons to reflect!

    The Men’s health is a neglected topic. The challenges and demands of a modern life and workplace are colossal. Men grapple with all the curveballs of life with a smiling face – but they need a helping hand and sympathetic world around them.

    I am glad that my participation in Movember created several conversations for awareness of Men’s health and a caring world for men. I ran two marathons and got several friends to participate in Movember including Harish. I was hyper-active on social media and used every opportunity to talk about the Movember movement. I even attended a global conference in Vienna with my no-shave look and continued the conversations. The release of Bala movie and Ayushmann’s video on being a perfect gentleman seemed timely.

     

    As I look back at Movember, I cannot feel anything but happiness and satisfaction!  The month did not seem as a slow boat to China. Nor did I see an inhabitant of Bongo Bongo island in the mirror and eyes of loved ones!

    A special thanks to Geetanjali Sahni – the high priestess of follow-ups and task management. Leveraging her eternal charm, persistent reminders and unashamed threats, the poster girl of determination ensured Team Geetanjali was on track! Her fiery stare and sharp repartees evaporated our excuses. During the entire Movember, she was our Chi.

    Aparajito and I loved the time spent on creative posters and the journey as cohort of Team Geetanjali.

    Thanks to the Movember champions Krunal and Zil and entire Pahel Team for making Movember such a grand success!

    And the post cannot be complete with a Bollywood anecdote. My heart goes for Tina’s male co-actor who had to cancel shooting with her due to pain in his uterus! I cannot empathise with him but my sympathies to Twinkle Khanna.

     

     

  • Bollywood Celebrates Gandhi

    Bollywood Celebrates Gandhi

    Bollywood Celebrates Mahatma Gandhi! The leading Bollywood director Rajkumar Hirani showcases the best Gandhian ideals in a new video. The special video is released for the birth centenary celebrations of Shri Mahatma Gandhi The Rajkumar Hirani tribute features the following leading actors: Aamir Khan Shahrukh Khan Salman Khan Ranbir Kapoor Sonam Kapoor Vicky Kaushal Alia Bhatt Kangana Ranaut The video was released by Honorable PM Shri Narendra Modi in New Delhi
    https://youtu.be/zrfBykEhg-M
  • Core Values – Defining Your Guiding Light!

    Core Values – Defining Your Guiding Light!

    Creating a life of purpose requires us to be in sync with our true self. And I believe knowing our core values is an important aspect of life design.

    Core Values are usually associated with organisations. But all of us also have our core values and principles. Our behaviour, decisions and actions are driven by them.

    Core values are our guiding lights! Core values are our true north! Core values define us! They help us to understand what is important to us and what we really cherish! Core Values enable decision-making. When we are confused, our values can direct us to the right road. It can help us make the choices that are consistent with our belief systems. And that creates happiness and bliss. If our actions are not aligned with our core values, we feel frustration and stress.

    What are your core values? How do you define your core values? Core values are not created – they are discovered. Over a period of time, our values emerge and become our compass. So, reflect on yourself, the journey and list out all things that come to your mind – when you define yourself and what you stand for. Be honest with self and only list the real values – no need for cool or nice words.

    My core values are:

    Authenticity – Being honest, straight-forward and sincere

    Simplicity – Less is more

    Loyalty – Dependability, sticking to commitments

    Creativity – Being different, versatile and trying new things

    Generosity – Share the success. ‘Live2Give’ is the mantra!

    My professional values are:

    Purpose – Always be goal-driven

    Passion – What is life without passion or enthusiasm?

    Promise – Deliver the commitments, keep the faith

    Performance – Results drive professional life

    Play – Add life to work with fun and joy for self and everyone around!

    Once the core values are determined, live the values! The details are in action! Let the behaviour be aligned with your values. It will help you take the right short term and long-term decisions. It will help you to live life to your own chosen standards. And that is a bliss!

    Image Credit: Joshua Hibbert

  • Suicide Is Not The Answer

    Suicide Is Not The Answer

    Shocked and saddened by the suicide of V G Siddhartha – cannot believe it!

    Siddhartha founded the Cafe Coffee Day chain and changed the way India drank coffee. He created thousands of jobs, a great brand and shared wealth. He also backed Mindtree and underwrote Infosys shares. He made other IT investments and gave support to the founders.

    Why did he do this? We will never know the reasons. He came from a strong family, had great political and business connections. He was a successful entrepreneur. There are talks about the pressure of PE investor, Income Tax harassment and Debt woes. But an entrepreneur knows all such challenges – at what point did it really get too much? Or was there something else?

    It is impossible for us to judge what he must be going through. No one can imagine his situation. 

    My point is simple….Suicide is not the answer. Life is a gift. Setbacks give way to sunshine. Today’s problems will go away.  

    Suicide means end of a great talent and human potential. It means failure of the human spirit. It leaves behind emotional scars for family and friends for life – a guilt that they could not do enough. 

    And yes, no individual nor any organisation is worth giving up our live for. 

    When one feels low, please talk to friends. Listen to music – a cure for everything. Spend time with nature. Or help others – world is full of more unfortunate people and helpless situations than us – help others. Instead of giving up life, help others live a good life and one could find our own meaning of life. 

    Reach out fo self-care group, suicide prevention helplines like Sneha, Parivartan etc.. Organizations like Moodcafe, White Swan Foundation, Live Love Laugh Foundation, MPower Minds can help as well. 

    Choose life. Suicide is not the answer. This too shall pass. 

    Image Courtesy: Faris Mohammed

  • Thoughts On Death

    Thoughts On Death

    Death is a technical problem. Yuval Noah Harris says that death happens because our body parts fail. The next frontier in science is to conquer death. We are adding years to our life with each passing decade. Can we become immortal? 

    Death is the ultimate truth of life. People are either afraid of death or try to run away from it. Acknowledge it. Accept it. And live today’s life with full celebration!

    Death is the reality of life. And when we die, the bank balance, designation, KRAs, Instagram supremacy and everything else will cease to matter. Within a few days, live will move on. Within a few years, the name will be gone. Within a few generations, our memory will be gone. So why stress so much? Let us live a life of principles. Let us live a life to be an example to our network. Let us live a life to help others.

    After a good day of hard work and meaningful activities with family, one gets a great sleep. Similarly, a life of good deed and actions results in a peaceful long time sleep.

    What would I wish when I die? One of my life’s biggest principle is ‘Live 2 Give’. I guess it should continue after the death. Hence it would be nice to be useful to others even when I am gone. Organ donation or donating the complete body for medical reasons is a great option. The soul has departed, so if the body organs can help someone else, it should be exercised. In India, there are emotional and spiritual reasons that are discussed, but I believe it is the lack of awareness on the benefits of organ donation that is the key issue. I would love to give possessions like books to the people who benefit from it. 

    Death should not be a serious event. There should be no or minimal formalities – let the world carry on without being affected. The loved ones and friends should celebrate the departure at a cinema call and watch a favourite movie – Anand, Guide, Kabhi Haa Kabhi Naa! If food questions comes in, the South Indian food is the way to go! And pan as well!

    Image Courtesy: Hanan Hashi

  • Life Lessons from India – New Zealand Thriller!

    Life Lessons from India – New Zealand Thriller!

    The World Cup 2019 Semi-final has silenced a nation of 1.35 billion people.

    The India – New Zealand clash has prompted strong emotions across the globe. The fans’ reaction is a testimony to their love of the game and ‘Men in Blue’. One can discard their involvement and ideas as arm-chair suggestions but without fans, the game is incomplete. The game is a bigger game because of fan, and it unites everyone – delivery boy, CEO, office staff, families!

    What else did I see in the India – New Zealand clash? What can be learn from it for our life?

    1. Innovation

    Indian team showed no innovation. India stuck to their old ways. Same batting order except pushing Dhoni down. Dhoni should have risen up in the order and he would have anchored the batting. He would have stopped Rishabh and Hardik from rash shots.

    Our Batsman played the same way as they did in earlier matches.

    We all need to innovate in life. We cannot keep trying the same things every time. Our career requires us to develop new skills and bring new ideas to the table. Innovation is key to success in today’s world. We need to evolve!

    2. No Plan B

    Indian Team did not have a Plan B. What if our big guns did not deliver? What if our middle order was exposed? India’s middle order was our biggest problem and we never worked on it. The lack of Plan B costed us the match.

    We had a great opportunity in India vs SL match to give practice to others. But still Virat came at No.3 and so did others at their own positions.

    In life our best planned ideas can go wrong. We need to have a Plan B. If our dream promotion does not happen, what do we do? If we do not get admission in IIM, what do we do?

    3. Flexibility / Overconfidence

    The team came across as stubborn as well. The rains would have made the batting difficult was a given factor . But our earlier success blinded us to the new situation. Maybe we got overconfident. What has worked well would continue!

    Respect the conditions. Respect the opponents. Every artist touches the stage before it performs on the stage – we did not kiss and read the pitch well.

    It is not the strongest or the smartest that survives – it is the most adaptable that survives. We need to learn flexibility in life. Change as per the situation and circumstance. Do not be stubborn.

    4. Discipline

    New Zealand was a disciplined outfit. The batsmen, bowler and fielder played to the strength. The bowlers stuck to the line and the length. The batsmen may have been slow but scored a decent score in the circumstances. The fielding was exceptional including the run-out that broke Dhoni’s stellar run and Indian hearts.

    Indian batsmen were still in their flashy IPL mode. Rishabh Pant and Hardik Pandya could not control their natural instincts. Clearly Rahul was out of the place. We had our share of woes in fielding as well. Virat said that 45 minutes of bad cricket cost us the tournaments. That is what happens in life as well. One bad impulsive action or decision can cause greater regrets!

    Whether is studies or financial planning, discipline goes a long way. Avoid flamboyance. Just do the job silently and consistently. The devil is in the details. Persistent efforts win!

    5. Leadership

    New Zealand skipper deserves equal credit for the leadership he demonstrated. He was the captain cool. Not only did he read the pitch right, he played to the strengths. Kane Williamson outsmarted India tactically with the way he attacked upfront and the way he set the field. He was in action throughout out the match and encouraging the team. He changed the bowlers, backed the colleagues and calmed every one when Jadeja-Dhoni were on fire. His belief ensured that New Zealand was through the match.

    Many people talked about the luck and the rains. A champion team does not need luck. And luck favors the brave and the prepared teams. Had India showed more steel and flexibility, the outcome would have been different. Luck helped Dhoni and Jadeja. But it also helped Guptill – whose run out was the worst thing to happen to India. Or Virat’s dicey wicket. But there are no other excuses – we lost on our own account. We were almost there…but New Zealand got it better that day! We should have not lost to England – we could have got another opponent!

    But the most important thing is that India put a great emphatic show during the entire World Cup. All of us loved it and our team was the table toppers! We had a great semi-final as well where hopes were alive till the last over. It was Dhoni that gave us the belief that we could still have win probability of 70% at 5-3. And we got to see Jadeja’s striking response to Sanjay bits and pieces comment!

    Rohit Sharma’s magnificent batting and Bumrah’s magical bowling will remain in our hearts and minds for long time to come!

    Life is about wins and rising after each fall. Sports is the greatest teacher. This too shall pass!

    Let us back the BlackCaps for a win! Cricket needs a new champion!

  • The Road Not Taken – The Visual Expression!

    The Road Not Taken – The Visual Expression!

    The Painting That I Was Waiting For!

    Our lovely library was waiting for the right art as its entry showcase. We had explored many options but never got it right!

    Till we saw this wonderful art expression of Ms Falak of Eklavya. It stole our hearts at the first sight and all the As of Karania family shouted in joy!

    Eklavya has several unique initiatives and Picasso is one such amazing idea. All the children express their painting and other talents which is encouraged and applauded by the entire society. The exhibition is organized to showcase the talent to the world and the proceeds are given to charities.

    The painting is aptly named ‘The Road Not Taken’. Robert Frost’s timeless poem is our favourite anthem and this creative work does the great justice to the poem.

    All the recently auctioned paintings of Mr N Modi on one side and this one on another side!

    Welcome home ‘The Road Not Taken’ and thanks a million Falak!

    Let us revisit the poem here:

    The Road Not Taken
    Robert Frost

    Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
    And sorry I could not travel both
    And be one traveler, long I stood
    And looked down one as far as I could
    To where it bent in the undergrowth;

    Then took the other, as just as fair,
    And having perhaps the better claim,
    Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
    Though as for that the passing there
    Had worn them really about the same,

    And both that morning equally lay
    In leaves no step had trodden black.
    Oh, I kept the first for another day!
    Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
    I doubted if I should ever come back.

    I shall be telling this with a sigh
    Somewhere ages and ages hence:
    Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
    I took the one less traveled by,
    And that has made all the difference.

  • Book Review: 21 Lessons For The 21st Century by Yuval Harari

    Book Review: 21 Lessons For The 21st Century by Yuval Harari

    The highly stimulating and inspiring Yuval Noah Harari is back! His latest book ‘21 Lessons for the 21st Century‘ completes his trilogy. While his previous best sellers, Sapiens and Homo Deus explored the past and the future respectively, 21 Lessons focusses on the present and contemporary topics.

    I read the book on a long SFO-Delhi flight in one reading, amidst the chaos of Brexit and US-China trade tensions. I was returning from an annual planning pilgrimage where we were trying to look at the crystal ball and make our bets. So, the topic of knowing the present and the modern challenges made a lot of sense. The book’s cover jacket and introduction indeed made the right claims:

    How can we protect ourselves from nuclear war and technological disruptions? What are today’s greatest challenges and choices? What should we pay attention to? Are we still capable of understanding the world we have created? What should we teach our children?

    The book is divided into 21 chapters over 5 different sections and cover topics Work, Terrorism, Immigration, Nationalism, War God, Fake News, Education etc. So how does the book measure up? Does it rise up to the claims?

    The vegan smartphone-less Yuval Noah indeed makes a compelling reading. His wide knowledge and deep intellect are evident in his strong claims. The contemporary examples quickly relate and establish a shared platform for arguments. It offers interesting insights and ideas to provoke further thinking and find answers. Sample this:

    1. Donald Trump warned voters that the Mexicans and Chinese will take their jobs, and that they could therefore build a wall on the Mexican border. He never warned voters that the algorithms will take their jobs, nor did he suggest building a firewall on the border with California. True indeed. It is very easy to create a narrative and channelize resources against a visible threat, but what about the larger invisible challenges. It is easy for Donald Trump to talk about Mexicans but how do we prepare to deal humanity with the challenges arising from the confluence of AI and Biotech? The same thing is happening across the world.

    2. The Russian, Chinese and Cuban revolution were made by people who were vital for the economy and lacked political power. But Trump and Brexit were supported by people who enjoyed political power and were afraid to lose the economic power.

    3. Humans vote with their feet. Which countries do people want to emigrate to? It tells the answer for the future. People want to move to USA, Germany, Canada, Australia.

    4. Why terrorism makes headlines? Because the world has become a safer place as compared to the past and any new acts of violence makes more noise. Terrorists are successful because they are like a small fly that can drive a large mad bull to smash up a china shop. That is exactly what 9/11 did. It drove US to smash up Middle East. Terrorism requires action on three fronts: state action against terrorist networks, responsible media management and individual self-restraint.

    5. Humans have two types of abilities – physical and cognitive. In the past, machines competed with humans mainly in the raw physical abilities, while humans retained an immense edge in raw physical abilities. Today, machines are taking over human beings even in the cognitive abilities. So how can humans retain an edge over machines?

    6. Artificial intelligence and biotech are the future and will change humanity. Are we ready for it?

    7. Self-driving cars are safer, but will we understand that? Shall we protect people, or shall we protect jobs? The jobs in Bangladesh and Bangalore will be lost soon. How do we train the redundant workforce? It was easier for farm labourer to become industrial worker or retail help as it required very less significant training. What happens in the future when jobs are becoming very specialised?

    8. The rich are becoming richer, but they may become superior and more talented as well in the future. There will be a rise of “useless” class of people. What are the implications for the society and humanity?

    9. The climate change will be good news for Russia.

    Does the book offer solutions? Yes and no. It offers high level solutions – universal basic income, globalisation of politics, meditation etc. However, if one is looking for practical and innovative solutions, there are very few. And it is not Yuval Noah’s fault – nobody has got the answers right to these questions. At least he has identified the right questions to find answers for and given some initial thoughts. He wants us to debate and find our own answers.

    The book is a good read and a recommended reading. But first do read Homo Deus and Sapiens as well.

    And then let us meet and brainstorm…

    Further Reading:
    Yuval Noah Harari Official Website
    Yuval Noah on YouTube

    Image Courtesy: www.ynharari.com

  • My Impressions Of Nandita Das’ Manto

    My Impressions Of Nandita Das’ Manto

    I got introduced to Saadat Hasan Manto when I read Toba Tek Singh in school while studying the partition of India. Khushwant Singh’s Train To Pakistan and Govind Nilhalani’s Tamas completed my partition trilogy. (Tamas’ author is Bhisham Shahni and I watched the Doordarshan masterpiece).

    Manto kept on resurfacing at regular intervals and his impact grew on me with the passage of time. Thanda Ghosht and Khol Do threw light on monstrous brutalities committed by fellow human beings in the name of partition.

    Nandita Das brings Manto back into the spotlight – a much awaited film on the genius by a sensitive and intellectual director.

    Nandita’s Manto depicts his journey from pre-Independent British India to post-partition India and a newly formed Pakistan. The movie’s initial focus is on Manto’s Bollywood days, friendship with Ismat Chughtai, family time with wife Safiya etc. One gets a glimpse of Bollywood personalities, Manto’s fearless voice, his empathy for the less elite members of the society and the power of his words. Post India’s independence, the evil partition divides a newly reborn country. After a brief time in Bombay, Manto moves to Pakistan. The loss of Bombay and the scars of partition slowly affect him and break him down. Liquor and cigarettes become his fast friends and he stops writing back to his friends in Bombay. His pen is still brutally naked and focusses on the monstrous human behavior. He is charged with a case of obscenity in Pakistan and he loses it. The progressive writers also attack him, and he finds himself in a minority. Eventually he goes to an asylum for de-addiction.

    Returning after a decade to the director’s chair, Nandita Das provides a very touching portrayal of the man behind the author and his eventual breakdown. She depicts Manto’s struggles, pains and heartbreak with total empathy. Her hard-work in research is very evident.

    Nawazuddin Siddiqui is at the top of his game. He looks and plays the attitude of Saadat Hasan Manto with great effectiveness. Manto is a new breaking ground for Nawazuddin, who has mastered the thriller and gangster space. Rasika Duggal is a perfect companion to Manto and she provides the right anchor. She is silent, spirited, strong and dignified. The supporting cast includes stalwarts like Paresh Rawal, Divya Dutta, Rishi Kapoor, Ranvir Shoerey, Javed Akhtar, Ila Arun, Gurdaas Maan, Niraj Kabi etc. Tahir Bhasin shines as Manto’s friend/superstar Shyam. It is worth noting that most of the stars have done the film at zero or minimal cost. Nawaz has charged only Re 1 for the movie. The movie’s production values, art, costume music and background score are world-class and in perfect sync with the movie’s tone. ‘Bol Ke Lab Azaad Hai Tere’ is an anthem!

    Manto’s screenplay is the real highlight of the movie. The dialogues are designed to keep you thinking. Sample this:

    “Agar aap mere afsaano ko bardasht nahi kar sakte, toh iska matlab yeh hai ke zamaana hi naakabil-e-bardaasht hai”.

    “Meri kahaaniyon ko main ek aaina samajhta hoon jismein samaaj apne aap ko dekh sake. Aur kisi buri surat waale ko aaine se hi shikayat ho toh usmein mera kya kasoor?”

    “ When religion moves from hearts to head, people start wearing religious caps”

    The scenes are very well-designed and thoughtful. Take a very simple scene at the start of the movie – where Manto and Safiya are sitting in a park and discussing about a woman’s facial hair. A simple park banter speaks of their companionship, Manto’s imagination and simplicity of their lives.

    Or another scene in which prompts Manto to move to Pakistan. His friend is trying to stop him from going to Pakistan. He argues and says that Manto is not a Muslim enough (in reference to his alcoholic habits). Manto retorts that he is a Muslim enough to be killed. The scene delivers in the message in the most thundering silent way!

    Manto’s sensitivity is seen in another scene. He is hurt when Faiz Ahmed Faiz defends Manto’s writing as not obscene, but he also remarks that Manto’s work is not literature. He keeps on thinking about this comment in garden. His daughter’s sickness and his apology to Safiya really affect you – why does he have to suffer!

    Nandita weaves Manto’s famous stories into the main narrative with great dexterity but I found the stories to be too brief and directly striking the key message. I understand Nandita never wanted to talk about the stories because everyone knows them – she was highlighting the context and inspiration of those stories. But I would have loved to see Nandita’s Midas touch to these timeless stories.

    Many of us do not know Gandhi, so to expect people to be aware of Manto is an important assumption. The movie’s promos and Mantoiyat theme had created an impression of a strong, courageous and larger-than-life Manto. People were expecting more fiery stuff whereas the movie showcased only the few years of Manto’s life. This created an expectation vs reality gap. But it is director’s prerogative to choose what to showcase. The chosen aspect of life is more difficult to showcase. More importantly, it is more significant to be showcased – how a creative genius withers away!

    The post millennial generation cannot relate to DevDas and even Gandhi has to be wrapped in Gandhigiri. So, the film came across as a little gloomy and melancholic.

    But I should not speak for everyone. Manto would not be happy. He would rebuke me and rightly so! (Remember the Lahore scene. Manto speaks to bibliophiles in Lahore and a member of the audience remarks that readers find Manto’s work dark. Manto rebukes the person for speaking for all readers instead of himself. An important point made when we often see people speaking for entire populace. )

    I loved Manto. It is a class act. It is a rare gem. It is one of the fine works of recent times. Its grows on you! And it really makes you think!

    “Jab ghulam the, toh aazaadi ka khwaab dekhte the. Aur ab aazaad hai, toh kaunsa khwaab dekhenge?”

    The impact and importance of the movie is beyond the box-office numbers!

    Watch it! Do not miss it!

  • Live To Give!

    Live To Give!

    Live To Give!

    Ten years ago, it started as a humble thought but little did I know that ‘Live To Give’ will become a motto and a defining philosophy for me!

    Over the years, it has taken different forms:
    – Spending time and energy behind worthy people, organisations and causes
    – Mentoring and helping students, friends, colleagues, relatives and budding entrepreneurs  
    – Providing intellectual, network and financial capital
    – Evangelising causes
    – Cheer leader

    It has been a mutually rewarding and soul-enriching act. It has been a great learning experience as well. It is a challenging act as demands on time and energies keep increasing in all domains of life – but it is worth it!

    I was discussing this personal philosophy with some young friends and it prompted to check the original note of ‘Live To Give’….still holds true! (And inspired this post!)

    The Original 2008 Founding Version of ‘Live To Give’

    Live To Give!

    If I can stop one heart from breaking, 
    
I shall not live in vain; 
    
If I can ease one life the aching, 
    
Or cool one pain, 

    Or help one fainting robin 
    
Unto his nest again, 
    
I shall not live in vain.

    : Emily Dickinson

    ‘Live To Give’ is a concept of giving back to society. Whatever way. Whatever time. Helping anyone. 
     
    ‘Live To Give’ is not an organisation, it is a mantra for life. We have to leave the world by giving more than we received from it. We have to leave every place by making it better than what we found it. 
     
    ‘Live To Give’ is an idea to get people to help each other. Organisations, individuals can help in any manner they deem fit. If you are good in accounts, please help an old age home to manage its accounts. If you are good in technology, help someone to learn computers. If you are good in marketing, please help the neighbourhood library to add more members. If you love children, visit orphanages and spread joy. If you are well-connected, connect the have-nots with haves. The haves will be thankful. However, ‘Live To Give’ is not helping just the have-nots or the non-elite. Not at all!

    ‘Live To Give’ is a way of life. Give wherever you can. Give your best at work place. Give your best at home. Give your best to the fellow passenger on train. Give your best to the stranger looking for directions. Give your best to the friend in your life.

    What will matter the most to us? How much did we earn or what difference we made in the environment?

    Image Courtesy: Photo by Lina Trochez and Thought Catalog on Unsplash