Category: Ideas & Wisdom

  • If

    If

    English poets have produced some remarkable work and “If” is one of the great gems. British Nobel laureate Rudyar Kipling’s poem was written in 1895 and published in “Rewards & Fairies” in 1910.

    “If” remains one of the most beautiful advice and inspirational gem. One can find glimpses of Bhagwad Gita, Vedic & Natural wisdom in this poem.

    Though the whole work is awesome, some of my favorites lines are:

    1. If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
    But make allowance for their doubting too;

    2. If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
    If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;

    3. If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
    And treat those two impostors just the same;
    (Like Sthitaprajna in Bhagwad Gita)

    4. If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
    Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,

    “If”

    If you can keep your head when all about you
    Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
    If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
    But make allowance for their doubting too;
    If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
    Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
    Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
    And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

    If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
    If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
    If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
    And treat those two impostors just the same;
    If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
    Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
    Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
    And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

    If you can make one heap of all your winnings
    And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
    And lose, and start again at your beginnings
    And never breathe a word about your loss;
    If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
    To serve your turn long after they are gone,
    And so hold on when there is nothing in you
    Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

    If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
    Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
    If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
    If all men count with you, but none too much;
    If you can fill the unforgiving minute
    With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
    Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
    And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

  • Kshamapan – Michammi Dukkadam – The Festival Of Forgiveness

    Kshamapan – Michammi Dukkadam – The Festival Of Forgiveness

    Forgiveness is the supreme act of courage!

    It is an act of faith and humility. It releases both the parties to move on and build a new tomorrow.However, it is very difficult to execute. Equally difficult is forgiving oneself!

    However, we need to start somewhere!

    And nothing better than the holy day of Samvastari – the last day of Paryushan – the biggest Jain Festival. On this day, all Jains ask for forgiveness by saying – Michammi Dukkadam.

    Dear Friend

    I ask for forgiveness, if I may have hurt you, intentionally or unintentionally, by Thoughts, Words or Action.

    Micchami Dukkadam !

  • The Eklavya Experience

    The Eklavya Experience

    As you progress in life, one of the important anxieties of life is about your child’s education. Are you preparing them for the future? Will they be ready to be a global citizen? Will they learn how to learn? Will they know how to deal with the challenges? What is the right mix between academic rigour and extra-curricular activities? 

    So many questions…The funny thing is that none of these questions may have mattered when we had gone to school. Yet we have so many questions. Are we doing analysis paralysis? Are we overdoing this?

    School is one part of the equation but a very important part. Because school is the child’s first external environment after the home unit. School environment can determine and influence our children beyond our imagination. 

    As parents of two children, me and my wife were clear about a few things while we are selecting our school. Education is important but we did not want to rob the childhood of our kids. Academic rigour and discipline are pre-requisite for a good citizen and strong civic sense is the first religion. But we want our kids to also have time for life activities and no-activity times. We have seen many kids having a schedule that can put a leading consultant to shame – whole life is going to be driven by Outlook Calendars – so why create stress from early days? Knowing Mozart is fine but let our kids also enjoy the music of Mozart of Madras. Knowing Picasso is fine but let them also create doodles on home walls! The only important things are quality of education, discipline, extra-curricular and co-curricular balance, ethics and values driven learning. 

    Sometimes life rewards you more than you wish for. Our joy knew no bounds when we discovered Eklavya. It checked all our boxes and it went beyond. We got the admission after waiting for some time and we were very happy. You can read our Eklavya Experience at my earlier blog: The Eklavya Evangelist.

    Life was good and my child was enjoying the school life. But life surprises you. At a very short notice, we had to move to a European country and we had to uproot our lives here. It was one of the best education exercise of life. We were taken out of our comfort zones and our autopilot lives were re-programmed. This is the benefit of moving to new place as Subroto Bagchi explained to me during our EDI interactions.

    My child was admitted to one of the most wonderful schools – which had children from more than 50 countries and different backgrounds. His best friends were from different continents and it truly broadened his outlook. The teachers were very good and some of the pedagogic approaches were impressive indeed. But somehow all of us missed Eklavya. He would tell his teachers and principal stories of his school (Eklavya) – forgetting that Eklavya was his ex-school. 

    Time passed and I was at nearing the end of our stint and we had to decide on the next steps. My son was very clear about what was to be done. He wanted to go back to Eklavya. Not that we needed any strong convincing! My family decided to move earlier than me. This decision would have manifold implications and we would need to plan for it. We would need additional support from our families, employer organization and Eklavya as well. And all these people helped me immensely and I am grateful to them. 

    Eklavya Team was very supportive. Principal Madam gave us helpful inputs and Administrative Team was super-efficient. Even in our absence, they made sure that we got the personal touch and advice. Once we landed, teachers took personal interest to ensure my son could catch-up with his peers in certain subjects. It is so special to see class teacher taking more efforts than you to ensure that your child is getting ahead and giving his best – It speaks highly of the individual teacher and her values and greatness – but it is an example of the great organization and ethos created by the founder. Once our son was struggling to get certain act right and the pain of that was on class teacher’s face. That moment is strongly sketched in our minds as a rare example of care and genuine interest in the student’s progress. Right from Principal to support staff, everyone says – My children. Contrast this to a philosophy were students are customers and parents are financiers! During regular school interactions, every teacher has inputs which are specific to your child and they you the same with anecdotes and action steps – this is very high level of engagement and involvement. 

    We recently had an interaction with the founder Shri Sunil Handa. He explained that the philosophy was to prepare the children for the future – where they can excel and achieve their true potential. How they can confidently say – I do not know but I am willing to learn and succeed. How they can fail and learn to get up and give another shot till they succeed. The emphasis at Eklavya is to understand the basics and concepts and apply it in own way to real life. The emphasis is also on being an individual with strong civic sense. 

    He advised parents to give as much exposure as possible to the children. Watch movies, play sports, meet people from all backgrounds, do all crazy things – but spend time together. He warned parents from giving a sheltered and protected environment – it harms the child. The analogy was – Do not a Dettol mother – sanitizing everything around. Eklavya philosophy would say – Do not stay away from cow-dung. Smell it. Check dry cow-dung. See how it burns. Etc Etc. 

    The Eklavya School is following principles similar to the Growth Mindset. In her book ‘Mindset’ author Carol Dweck suggests that our mindset makes a great impact on how we live our life. It determines what kind of a person we become. Many people believe they are super talented and talent alone creates success. There is not much effort required and their intelligence and talent is fixed. This is fixed mindset and it is not a great model. In contrast, people with growth mindset believe that most of their abilities can be developed through hard work and dedication. Talent is a good addition but learning and resilience are key ingredients of success. A growth mindset person thrives on challenges and sees failure as an inspiration for growth and developing existing abilities. All great achievers have had growth mindset.

    The practices and principles followed at Eklavya are very similar to the leading Finnish schools and outstanding schools in Britain. However, I would say that Eklavya is in a class of its own. It has its unique values, character and academic approach. The most important part is that everyone at Eklavya lives and executes this uniqueness every day thereby creating a great model of excellence and culture. And the credit goes to the entire Eklavya team from founder Shri Sunil Handa, Principal, Teachers, Administrative Teams, Support Staff and everyone. And as a student of management, it is a very fascinating case study for me. Because Drucker had said – Culture eats strategy for breakfast everyday!

    Image Credit: Diana Robinson

    Related Reading: The Eklavya Evangelist

  • Making The World A Better Place!

    Making The World A Better Place!

    Nothing can be as contrasting as traveling to Auschwitz and Cannes between two weekends. Auschwitz and Cannes paint polar portraits: Introspection & Illuminati, Guilt and Glamour, Prayers and Party. One starts questioning a lot of things. One starts wondering a lot of actions.

    Amidst these different shades of thoughts, I was traveling in Nice and we were passing through the beautiful beachfront in the French Riviera. It was a sunny day and the beach was bubbling with life. Inevitably, we started talking about the elephant in the cab: A few months back, this was the place where the terrible terror had struck. The happening Promenade Des Anglais had turned into a cemetery within 4 minutes on Bastille day. The cab driver started describing the details of the terror attack and impact on the local people.

    I asked the cab driver about the upcoming elections, the rise of the right and if Marine Le Pen could indeed win the presidential election in France. We had already seen how the world has been changing and getting divided. Brexit results had sent the first shocks in June 2016 and US presidential election results in November 2016 had accentuated the rise of intolerance and rejection of globalization.

    The cabbie told me the what happened was unfortunate. It is leading to further intolerance and promotion of stereotypes. But he does not believe in politics.

    I asked him what is the way out. He has a simple philosophy and he promotes the same philosophy in his family and neighborhood. The society is a good place if you do the right thing. If you are a good citizen, work hard and care for your family and neighbors. You automatically take right decisions and help the poor and needy. The world becomes a better place with you. Simple, deep and wise words.

    I guess as we embark on 2017 and a difficult environment across the globe, let us make the world better place starting with us. Let us do the right thing. Doing the right thing may be difficult but it will save us from future Auschwitzs and create more Cannes.

    Happy New Year 2017

    Image Courtesy: visitnc.com

  • Attitude For Gratitude – Happy Thanksgiving Day

    Attitude For Gratitude – Happy Thanksgiving Day

    One of the most under-rated traits is an attitude for gratitude. We receive so many gifts from people and the world around us but we never acknowledge it.

    It is nice to be intelligent, smart, kind and efficient but it is equally important to be thankful. Attitude for Gratitude matters. So let us be thankful for everything that we have got.

    Thanksgiving season is here. More than the festivities, it is time to recollect our wonderful times and blessings of amazing people around us.

    I wanted to acknowledge and thank all my friends and colleagues for the continued support and encouragement. Wishing you wonderful family celebrations with friends and family.

    Have a memorable Thanksgiving!

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  • Dilbert’s Simple 9 Point Investment Plan

    Dilbert’s Simple 9 Point Investment Plan

    Financial Planning and Money is a very important subject. One one hand, people are very casual about this and on the other hand, they over-analyze with complex books and expert advice and long formulas.

    Simplicity is often not given the merit it deserves. Dilbert’s Scott Adam has curated the investment wisdom and put it in a simple 9 point plan. And it is very powerful indeed.

    Here are the Scott Adam’s 9 Point Investment Plan:

    1. Make a will

    2. Pay off your credit cards

    3. Get term life insurance if you have a family to support

    4. Fund your 401k to the maximum

    5. Fund your IRA to the maximum

    6. Buy a house if you want to live in a house and can afford it

    7. Put six months worth of expenses in a money-market account

    8. Take whatever money is left over and invest 70% in a stock index fund and 30% in a bond fund through any discount broker and never touch it until retirement

    9. If any of this confuses you, or you have something special going on (retirement, college planning, tax issues), hire a fee-based financial planner, not one who charges a percentage of your portfolio

    One has to follow the above in the step by step by order. The Indian equivalent of 401K and IRA would be PPF and EPF – not 100% same by near.

  • What Is Your Cathedral Project?

    What Is Your Cathedral Project?

    Stephen Hawking recently said spoke about the importance of money and fallout of Brexit on important projects. He said important projects need to be protected as their value goes beyond one generation. He called those important projects as Cathedral Projects – working on food shortage, overpopulation effects, acidulation of oceans etc.

    I liked the term Cathedral Project – It signifies a project that is grand, audacious, visionary and noble. As Hawking himself said: “People are starting to question the value of pure wealth. Is knowledge or experience more important than money? Can possessions stand in the way of fulfilment? Can we truly own anything, or are we just transient custodians? These questions are leading to a shift in behaviour which, in turn, is inspiring some groundbreaking new enterprises and ideas. These are termed “cathedral projects”, the modern equivalent of the grand church buildings, constructed as part of humanity’s attempt to bridge heaven and Earth. These ideas are started by one generation with the hope a future generation will take up these challenges.” (Source: The Guardian)

    While Hawking was right that Cathedral Projects need big money, they equally need the best minds and smart talent. Like our money is spent on latest gadgets, is our talent also being spent on less important things?

    Are our best engineers optimising the social media feed or developing weather forecast to save fishermen? Are our best scientists helping search engine’s mobile reach or working on affordable drinking water solutions for millions. Are our best marketers selling Cola waters or finding creative ways to encourage education and gender sensitivity? Are our best directors churning million dollar box office blockbusters or spreading the message of tolerance and peace in wholesome entertainment?

    The usual quantity vs quality questions comes here. Earlier masters and experts would spend lifetimes on a few projects. They would dwell on it day-in and day-out. They would research and travel and read till they had their desired vision. Often, they would re-start the work. How many times does this happen? We always have deadlines. We always want to complete more project in short times. We have ghost-writers and ghost-architects behind big names. How many new Gaudi, Stephen Hawking, Newton and Picasso are being created?

    Are we content with the monthly salary and comfort of our material choices? Are we thinking of living upto to our potential? Are we all living the world better off? Are we all thinking beyond the obvious? What are our cathedral projects?

    Sagrada_Familia_Ash

  • Aylan Kurdi & iPhone7

    Aylan Kurdi & iPhone7

    Europe is facing its biggest refugee crisis since World War II. Thousands of people are displaced and many have died. European crisis calls for compassion and action but the world is yet to come to terms with the crisis. Many countries and many people are not even aware of the crisis. Many European governments and nationals are reacting in a very surprising manner. This is the crisis of humanity and will define how Europe and World value morals and human beings.

    The death of Aylan Kurdi gave the face to the crisis. May his soul rest in peace. Read his story on Guardian UK

    I was heart-broken to see his dead body. It shocked me. Here was my response in a short few lines.

    Aylan & iPhone7

    It was not Aylan that was drowned that day
    A part of our humanity died that day

    Thousands leaving their daily lives for a better tomorrow
    Detaching their umbilical homes with a sorrow

    Moving out for a better future in an alien land
    Moving out seniors in wheelchairs and toddlers in hand

    Will they find a better life?
    Or will they perish in a man-made strife

    Ash, what is the point of this poetry?
    When entire Mediterranean is a growing cemetery

    May Aylan find peace in Heaven
    May the famous Syrian refugee show him iPhone Seven

    Maybe they will take selfie in heavenly sunshine
    And our world continues just as fine!

  • Paryushan 2015 – A Big Test For Jainism

    Paryushan 2015 – A Big Test For Jainism

    It is always interesting to note how we find issues and get ourselves busy and play into the hands of politicians. And allow them to deviate attention from the real issues.

    Jainism believes in Truth, Ahimsa (Non-Violence), Anekantavad (Respecting Diverse Perspectives) besides Aparigriha (Non-Posession). Jainism strongly supports right faith, right knowledge and right conduct.

    Today Jain friends are dragged into the unnecessary controversy – the truth is being ignored and so right knowledge maybe not visible. Non-violence is practiced in thoughts, deeds and real actions – but our minds are being weakened as we experience emotions over the controversy. Certain miscreants went further and committed objectionable actions in front of temples to incite further passions. And this angered many Jain friends as it was designed to create further problems.

    Paryushan is the festival of forgiveness and festival of introspection. Jina is one who conquers inner enemies of ego, pride, anger, deceit, hatred and greed amongst other evils. In that sense, Paryushan 2015 is our biggest test !

  • Hard Work vs Smart Work !!!

    Hard Work vs Smart Work !!!

    “Don’t work hard, work smart!”
    “Smart work is more important than hard work”

    Every person gets this message from his superior, colleague, friend, teacher.  The idea is to kill inefficiency, do things in a quicker and effective way, add intelligence to tasks, avoid silly errors etc. Noble intentions and nice management jargon! But is it real?

    However, I think hard work leads to smart work. Hard work is essential pre-requisite to smart work. Only when a person gets his / her hands dirty and spends time on understanding the entire process cycle, he will get identify the bottlenecks and add intelligent ideas to make life simpler.

    As they say, no elevators to success.